Why My SEPM 7 On VM memory usage High

Dear All

I Have problem, my server sepm mr 7 install on VM Ware memory and i install sql 2008 64 bit on same machine.

My server spesification :

1. Quad Core procesr

2. 12 GB Ram

3. 250 gb Hardisk

4. win 2008 R2 64 bit

my client sepm 3500 client and communication client to sepm use WAN/LAN

My question is:

1. Can i reduce the memory usage? please how to

2. Best Practice for sepm 3500 client on vm?

3. How to tuning sql 2008 64 bit?

4. can i see article about my sepm problem because my boss is not understand about this problem

I upload my sepm capture

Many thanks for all,

Helmy